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Fun in the Sun

April 21, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Community

Though frozen sidewalks and mismatched mittens may not hint at the upcoming summer, school is out in only a few months. Soon complaints of frostbitten fingers will become whines of overheating and dehydration and pleas to go to the pool, the park, and anywhere with air conditioning will certainly become rampant. Though controlling the New York City weather may be a little out of reach, planning your kids’ summers, to be exciting, social, educational, and memorable, is easily achievable. From the artist to the athlete to the all-around all-star, Park Slope and its surrounding neighborhoods have plenty of fun and affordable options for kids of all ages.

Brooklyn Arts Exchange
Artistic kids will enjoy Brooklyn Arts Exchange (BAX) Summer Arts Program, for kids entering grades K–6. Guests artists, specialists, and counselors will lead campers in daily classes explore art, media, theatre, music, circus arts, and much more. Each week culminates in an informal performance or gallery to show off to family and friends what busy, creative campers have been working on. An extended day program is also available, offering later pick-up for working parents.
youth.bax.org/general-information/school-breaks/summer-arts-program
Program Dates: June 30–August 15

Brooklyn Boulders
Kids who are climbing off the walls—or just in search of a bit of adventure—can attend Brooklyn Boulders Summer Adventures in Gowanus. Named one of ‘Time Out New York Kids: Best of 2013!’ this camp is an invigorating and adventurous experience for all kids! Brooklyn Boulders offers 22,000 square feet of rock climbing, complete with safety gear and strictly-enforced rules—a bit of reassurance for concerned parents! Climbing camp is dedicated to providing a fun and challenging experience for campers of all skill levels. This year, the camp will also partner up with Homage Brooklyn Skateboard Academy to offer a dual skate/climbing camp.
brooklynboulders.com
Program Dates: BKB Summer Adventures Session 1: June 30–July 3 Session 2: July 14–July 18 Session 3: July 28–August 1 Session 4: August 11– August 15 Session 5: August 25–August 29 BKB X Homage
Session 1: July–July 25 Session 2: August 18–August 22

Butterbeans
Get young cooks out of your kitchen and into someone else’s at ButterBeans Kitchen Food and Garden Summer Camp, which offers a complete farm-to-table summer experience for kids ages 6–10, and takes care of the mess! Food-focused activities include planting seed, harvesting fresh food, cooking seasonal summer lunches, and writing unique cookbooks. Kids will enjoy individual sessions with local food experts, getting hands-on with chickens and worms and learning the tricks to great composting. Fun “Top Chef ” challenges will help teams of kids create inventive lunches and snacks, and perhaps prep them for the next “MasterChef Junior.”
butterbeanskitchen.com
Program Dates:Session 1: July 7–July 18, Session 2: July 21– August 1, Session 3 : August 4–August 15, Session 4: August 18 –August 22

Park Slope Day Camp
For a traditional day camp experience, Brooklynites ages 31/2–14 can enjoy all the summer activities at Park Slope Day Camp. Those wanting a more specific experience can also register for the camps Sports Academy or Circus Camp programs. The camp also offers a free morning shuttle to local campers. Groups are split up by age. Camp activities include tennis, arts and crafts, music, theater, sports, nature, self-defense, climbing on the camp’s climbing wall, and field trips to locations like the beach or zoo. Instructional swimming as well as clubs for campers to join to suit their unique interests are also offered throughout the day.
parkslopedaycamp.com
Program Dates: June 30–August 22, selectable by week

Piper Theater
Acclaimed local theater Piper Theatre at Old Stone House offers kids ages 7–17 the opportunity to enter new worlds of imagination and wonder through their summer performance camps. Professional teachers will guide students in creating full-scale productions performed outdoors on the professional stage at the end of July. A new program this summer partnering with Off The Page offers a workshop for campers to create the show they will perform in! Specialized intensive workshops also include Shakespeare, Hands-on Film, an advanced workshop performing Amadeus, and an advanced musical workshop performing Hair.
pipertheatre.org
Program Dates: June 30–July 26

STREB
Brooklyn’s STREB Lab Camp offers a unique circus performance program, encouraging campers to engage with their surroundings and bodies in new and unique ways. Campers will build confidence and independence swinging from the trapeze, walking the tightrope, and goofing around in clowning gear. Kids can spend the summer performing in STREB’s circus for six one-week sessions, each of which culminate in a Friday performance and continue to build on practiced skills each consecutive week. Students who want to continue building on these skills can also continue with weekend and afterschool classes throughout the year.
streb.org
Program Dates: July 6–August 15, options for weekly sign-up

For kids ready to leave the house for a bit of time, several East Coast sleepaway camps are popular with Park Slope kids (and parents).

Beam Camp
Creative kids ages 7–17 learn to make their ideas a reality at Beam Camp, which specializes in fine and manual arts. Now in its tenth summer, the camp is celebrating a decade of innovation and community. Workshops are staffed by full-time and visiting professional architects, videographers, builders, engineers, designers, and other innovative makers from diverse backgrounds and skillsets. Campers will also collaborate on a commissioned, one-of-a-kind, large-scale Beam Project, unique to every summer. July’s project will be immersive mechanical light machines, and August will focus on a floating vessel combining the principles of Leonardo da Vinci with modern components. Future engineers, artists, and kids with curiosity will be happy to make this New Hampshire camp their summer home.
beamcamp.com
Program Dates: Session 1: July 2–27 Session 2: July 30–Aug 24

Camp Med-O-Lark
For over 50 years, Camp Med-O-Lark has been known throughout the country as a premiere summer arts institutions. Located in Washington, Maine, the lakefront property offers arts electives for kids 8-16. Unlike many traditional camps, Med-O-Lark does not host inter-camp sports competitions and tournaments but focuses on individual leadership and self-expression rather than competitiveness. Campers live in cozy cabins with bunk beds and participate in creative activities like dance, music, fine arts, circus arts, culinary arts, and performance arts. A skate park, sports field, and waterfront sports are also all available. Two, four, six, and eight week sessions are offered.
medolark.com
Program Dates: Session 1: June 27 –July 23 Session 2: July 25 –August 20

Camp Onas
Young Brooklynites ages 7–13 venture out to Bucks County, PA every summer to attend Camp Onas. The 72-acre property has been operating since 1922 and is accredited by the ACA. Onas offers a wide range of programs in arts, drama, sports, aquatics, and outdoors skills like hiking, gardening, and fishing. Overnight pioneer camping programs and day trips also allow campers to explore the world outside Onas. Camp Onas is rooted in the Quaker values of simplicity, peace, equality, and community, and aims to provide kids with a fun and memorable summer home and lifelong friends. Eight to nine campers live with counselors under the stars in the sleeping tents and pavilions, and boys and girls live on separate sides of camp, each with their own modern shower house. The rest of camp life is co-ed, including family style Dining Hall meals and camp-wide events. One-week sessions are also available to help ease younger campers into being away from home.
camponas.org
Program Dates:
Session 1: June 22 – July 5
Session 2: July 6 – July 19,
Session 3: July 20 – August 2,
Session 4: August 3 – August 16

Summer Camp Guide

Day Camps

14th Street Y
Manhattan, NY
14streety.org

Aviator Sports
Brooklyn, NY
aviatorcamps.com

Backpacks & Binoculars
Brooklyn, NY
backpacksandbinoculars.com

Beansprouts
Brooklyn, NY
beansproutsnurseryschool.com

Brainy Academy
Brooklyn, NY
brainyacademyny.com

Brooklyn Arts Exchange
Brooklyn, NY
youth.bax.org

Brooklyn Arts for Kids
Brooklyn, NY
brooklynartsforkids.com

Brooklyn Beanstalk
Brooklyn, NY
brooklynbeanstalk.com

Brooklyn Boulders
Brooklyn, NY
brooklynboulders.com

Brooklyn Conservatory of music
Brooklyn, NY
bqcm.org

Brooklyn Craft Farm
Brooklyn, NY
brooklyncraftfarm.com

Brooklyn Cultural Adventures Program
Brooklyn, NY
bklynpubliclibrary.org/bcap

Brooklyn Dance Foundry
Brooklyn, NY
brooklyndanceproject.com

Brooklyn Game Lab
Brooklyn, NY
brooklyngamelab.com

Brooklyn Players
Brooklyn, NY
brooklynplayers.com

Brooklyn Robot Foundry
Brooklyn, NY
brooklynrobotfoundry.com

Brooklyn Stars
Brooklyn, NY
bk-stars.com

The Brooklyn Strategist
Brooklyn, NY
thebrooklynstrategist.com

Butter Beans Food & Garden Summer Camp
Brooklyn, NY
butterbeanskitchen.com

Camp Half-Blood
Brooklyn, NY
camphalfbloodbklyn.com

Camp Intrepid
Manhattan, NY
intrepidmuseum.org

Camp Olympia
Brooklyn, NY
campolympiany.com

CBE Congregation Beth Elohim
Brooklyn, NY
congregationbethelohim.org

Child’s Play NY
Brooklyn, NY
childsplayny.com

Choice Scholars Day School
Brooklyn, NY
choicescholars.com

Construction Kids
Brooklyn, NY
constructionkids.com

The Co-op School
Brooklyn, NY
thecoopschool.com

Dancewave
Brooklyn, NY
dancewave.org

Engineering for Kids
Brooklyn, NY
engineeringforkids.net

Fastrackids
Brooklyn, NY
fastrackids.com

Free Spirits music
Brooklyn, NY
freespiritsmusic.com

Food Art for Kids
Brooklyn, NY
foodartforkids.com

Homage Brooklyn
Brooklyn, NY
homagebrooklyn.com

International School of Brooklyn
Brooklyn, NY
isbrooklyn.org

Juguemos A Cantar
Brooklyn, NY
juguemos.org

Kim’s Kids Summer Camp
Brooklyn, NY
kimskidscamp.com

Kings Bay Y
Brooklyn, NY
kingsbayy.org

Lango
Brooklyn, NY
langokidsnyc.com

Liu Children’s Academy Summer Camp
Brooklyn, NY
liu.edu

Mark Morris Dance Group
Brooklyn, NY
markmorrisdancegroup.org

NY K!ds Club
Brooklyn, Queens, & Manhattan, NY
nykidsclub.com

Park Explorers
Brooklyn, NY
parkexplorers.com

The Park Slope Day Camp
Brooklyn, NY
parkslopedaycamp.com

Piper Theatre Productions
Brooklyn, NY
pipertheatre.org

Pixel Academy
Brooklyn, NY
pixelacademy.org

Prospect Park Zoo education
Brooklyn, NY
prospectparkzoo.com

Spoke the Hub
Brooklyn, NY
spokethehub.org

Streb
Brooklyn, NY
streb.org

Shibley Day Camp
Brooklyn, NY
shibleydaycamp.com

Textile Arts Center
Brooklyn, NY
textileartscenter.com

Tinkergarten
Brooklyn, NY
tinkergarten.com

urBan martial Arts
Brooklyn, NY
urbandojo.com

Overnight Camps

Beam Camp
Strafford, NY
beamcamp.com

Berkshire Hills Eisenberg Camp
Copake, NY
bhecamp.org

Camp Eagle Hill
Elizaville, NY
campeaglehill.com

Camp Kodiak
Ontario, CA
campkodiak.com

Camp med-o-lark
Washington, ME
medolark.com

Camp Onas
Bucks County, PA
camponas.org

Camp Wekeela
hartford, ME
campwekeela.com

Eden Village Camp
Putnam Valley, NY
edenvillagecamp.org

Pinemere Camp
Stroudsburg, PA
pinemere.com

Windsor Mountain International Summer Camp
Windsor, NH
windsormountain.org

Detox with Kichadi

April 21, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Recipes

What comes to mind when you hear the word cleanse? A fast, kale juice for a week, or The Master Cleanse? Many cleanses these days ask that you move away from solid food and drink something consistently for a period of time. By taking away anything difficult to digest, the body reserves energy from over working hard to break down foods and makes room for any toxins to leave the body.

Spring cleaning: Remove clutter not only from your apartment but from your body as well. As the air starts to warm up and the days get continuously longer, this is an ideal time to rid the body of any residual winter toxins.

But let’s shift our perspective: Instead of taking things away, how can we be more mindful about what we are feeding our bodies? Times of fasting and detox can be a time to tune in with what your body can do without and commit to integrating wholesome, energetic foods. Let food be your medicine.

Kichadi is a primary Ayurvedic meal that has been prescribed for centuries for its many healing properties. It can be eaten when one feels they are about to get sick, are sick, or looking to detoxify the body. These meals are simple and can be made in one pot!

Simplicity is key here, as the organs do not have to work as hard and can receive nourishment more directly. Your liver is going to experience the most change during the spring, so let’s be kind to it.

Traditionally, kichadi calls for a grain and a legume with the mixture of medicinal oils and spices. Basmati rice and mung beans cooked with ghee (clarified butter) and spices such as coriander, cumin, and turmeric make up a classic kichadi dish. But you can make a kichadi specific to the season and for any ailment you are trying to address. This basic kichadi outline also gives you the freedom to experiment with different combinations of grains, legumes, oils, and spices. Additionally, adding fresh, seasonal vegetables at any point of the cooking process can amp up your kichadi powers.

Allow your liver to take it easy and stay away from alcohol, caffeine, meat, dairy, gluten, and white sugar. I am all about moderation, so try it for a weekend and if you are feeling good, try five days and then maybe seven days. Make yourself a big pot of kichadi to have for all meals. Again, moderation. If that seems crazy to you, try to have your kichadi for lunch and/or dinner.

While keeping it simple, this spring-appropriate recipe nourishes you and keeps you satisfied. The white rice has a cleansing property by literally scraping the organs clean. Brown rice can be used for more everyday consumption. The red lentils offer the necessary protein to keep you going. Ginger heats up the body to inspire purification and build immunity. Turmeric acts as an antiinflammatory, proven to be especially helpful with allergies. Cumin seeds are found in almost every kichadi recipe, as they are a great aid for digestion and assisting the absorption of necessary vitamins and minerals.

Spring Kichadi serves 2

3 cups of water
1/2 bunch of leafy greens (anything seasonal: escarole, bibb lettuce, spinach, etc)
3/4 cup of red lentils
1/2 white onion, finely chopped
1/2 cup of basmati white rice
1/2 cup of asparagus or zucchini, chopped
1 teaspoon of olive oil
1 teaspoon of fresh ginger, finely chopped
1 teaspoon of turmeric
pinch of cumin seeds
sea salt & black pepper to taste

Rinse rice and lentils until water runs clear. In a large, stainless steel pot, heat the olive oil over medium heat. Add the cumin seeds, ginger, and turmeric, and toast until fragrant. Add the onion and sauté until translucent, then add the lentils and rice and sauté for about 2 more minutes. Next, add 3 cups of water, increase heat, and bring to a boil. Cover and reduce to a low simmer for about 20 minutes. Add your asparagus or zucchini (or both!), making sure there is enough water to steam the veggies. Cover and cook for 5 minutes. Add the leafy greens and incorporate them into the contents of the pot. Add a little more water if too dry. Cover and let cook for 5-10 minutes depending on heartiness of greens. Season with sea salt and pepper to taste. Leftovers? Just reheat in a pan and add some new spices to freshen it up. Enjoy!

A Culinary Melting Pot

April 21, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Eat Local

Restaurant Triumvirate Makes its Mark in Park Slope

Park Slope restauranteur triumvirate—John Bush, Dale Talde, and Dave Massoni—love feeding people. Creating their artful, often playful, and sometimes even irreverent dishes makes them feel like they’ve contributed to the community, something larger than themselves. I sat down with the three of them at TALDE, one of their three restaurants in Park Slope, to discuss cultural identity, the Park Slope food scene and their plans for the future.

The trio’s Park Slope food foray began in 2010 when John Bush and David Missoni fell in love with the building on the corner of Fifteenth Street and Seventh Avenue and opened Thistle Hill Tavern. They describe the restaurant as an American tavern pub with strong English and Irish influences. Then in January of 2012 they opened Talde, an Asian-American restaurant and bar. Most recently in August of 2012, they opened Pork Slope, an Americana-inspired barbecue joint on Fifth Avenue.

It may seem like their diverse restaurants reflect incongruous tastes or perhaps even indecision, but there’s actually a prominent theme: Crave-worthy foods that playfully embrace the immigrant culture of Brooklyn.

And then there’s the question of why Park Slope—a neighborhood that isn’t exactly venerated over other areas of NYC for its hip factor. Its reputation tends more toward the mother-centric and stroller-friendly. Yet the trio is well aware of Park Slope’s stereotype and described it as “community-oriented, homey, and family-friendly.” In addition, they elaborated on the comfort and familiarity that living in such a personable, down-to-earth neighborhood brings: “You know the guy who works at the bodega, the pet store, and you feel a part of a community,” explained John Bush, who lives in an apartment above Pork Slope.

However, Park Slope’s earnest and cozy charm was not the only reason behind opening their mini-restaurant empire in this region of Brooklyn. It also came down to business basics. They put it simply: “Business is based on supply and demand.” They alluded to the neighborhood’s reputation of having a less-than.stellar restaurant scene, and because they live here or nearby they directly contributed to the demand. “Williamsburg is over.saturated and Park Slope was lacking,” Massoni noted.

The trio also spoke to the almost undetectable speed at which Park Slope, like the rest of Brooklyn, is changing. They reflected on its continuous transformation: “It’s not just families anymore. There are now more single people and couples—people who want to get out of the city,” they acknowledged. They also perceive Seventh Avenue to have grown into more of a hub than Fifth Avenue.

The dishes at all three of their restaurants reflect their desire to hone their own version of the American “melting pot.” Talde in particular pays tribute to the hyphenated identity of immigrants living in America, and in this case, Asian-American immigrants. A first-generation Filipino-American, Dale Talde is deeply, if not complexly, connected to both his Filipino and American roots. And his restaurant, Talde, is at its core a reflection and celebration of his own mixed cultural persona. Take the Pretzel Pork & Chive Dumplings for example. German pretzel meets the Asian dumpling in a novel recombination of cuisines that represents the ongoing exchange among ethnicities in New York in particular.

When Talde speaks about his visits to his hometown of Chicago, he indicates that his second-generation American family members are in some ways losing their connection to their Filipino roots. “I see the next generation, and they have zero connection to it,” he explains. It’s apparent that this is a conflict for Talde—an issue with which he grapples, yet ultimately accepts and interprets through his own cooking.

Bush, Talde, and Massoni are fascinated by American culture and the ways in which immigrant groups influence each other, meld together, change each other, and ultimately create something new. They believe food is one of the deepest expressions of culture and want the food they serve to showcase the many syntheses that happen in the U.S. And it does. It’s food that acknowledges the past and basks in change. It’s also comfort food—food that triggers waves of nostalgia and evokes childhood memories.

The trio has interesting and ambitious plans for the future. Yet curiously enough, and unfortunately for us, none of them involve Park Slope. Bush, Talde, and Massoni aim to start construction on two new restaurant concepts in Jersey City in the near future: a second Talde and Carrino Provisions. The Jersey City Talde will be twice the size of the Park Slope flagship, and Carrino Provisions will be Italian-inspired—half market and half restaurant offering house-made pastas, cured meats, and a stellar cheese program.
And foodie bookworms rejoice! Dale Talde is also coming out with a coffee table-style cookbook to be published by Grand Central Publishing in 2015. Described as “austere, beautiful, and tame,” it will tell the story of Talde’s culinary journey in addition to sharing his celebrated recipes.

So hey—if you haven’t checked out one of Bush, Talde, and Massoni’s three delightful restaurants in the hood, you might as well on your next available Saturday night. Their food is not just about pleasure. It’s a commentary on American culture and hyphenated identities. Thus, while digesting on your walk home from the restaurant, you’ll likely spend some time talking about what the food you just ate symbolizes.

A Big Burning Secret

April 18, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Hypocrite's Almanac

Dear Hypocrite,

I live in South Slope and I have a big burning secret. It’s not really my own secret; it’s the secret of two friends of mine whom I’ve gotten close with over the years because our kids go to the same school. These two friends are married to other people who are also my friends. Can you guess where this is going?

Last week I was on the Upper East Side to get my second of three goddamn root canals and there they were, let’s call them Bob and Marcy, coming out of a hotel holding hands. I tried to pretend I didn’t see them, I tried to put my head down and head toward the street, but it was too late. “What a coincidence!” “All three of us, so far from home!” “This is crazy!” We all took turns telling the story of what we were doing at the corner of Eighty-seventh and Lex. It was pathetic how terrible their lies were. Bob had an uncle in town staying at the hotel and Marcy was scouting locations for her cousin’s wedding. We stood there in silence for a moment looking at our feet. I know they expected me to go along with their game pretending that everything was normal. I couldn’t. I took a deep breath, exhaled loudly, and left them on the sidewalk. My dentist appointment was unusually difficult. We had to take breaks every few minutes because my jaw kept cramping. I know it was because I was so disgusted by what had just happened.

So here I am in the middle of a Woody Allen movie. I see Bob and Marcy and their families frequently at school events, parties, and soccer, and I don’t even try to hide my distain. I can’t help but shake my head or roll my eyes when they feebly try to engage me in chitchat. I find myself excessively complimenting their spouses in some lame effort to boost their confidence, to nudge them into thinking they deserve better than Bob or Marcy. I know it’s futile, but I’m so furious I’m in this position I can’t stop this behavior.

I’ve chosen not to say a thing to anyone about the affair. But because my social life revolves around a group of which Bob and Marcy are part, it’s been pretty much ruined. Whenever they’re near I’m on edge and I can’t stop fantasizing about calling them out as lying, cheating jerks. I don’t know how long I can take this. I understand that it’s none of my business and I should leave it alone, but then I think if my husband were cheating I’d sure as hell want to know. Advice?

Signed,
Social Life Ruined by Lying Cheating Jerks

Dear Social Life,

Root canals are terrible. I spent a good part of December in Midtown looking up at the bright, white light while my dentist worked hard to save what little I had left of my bottom, right molar. Three root canals? That’s tough. I’m assuming you’re straddling middle age. Those are the days when your teeth and many of your friends’ marriages fall apart. Right now, I know four couples getting divorced. Two of them involved some sneaking around. The other two might have. (We’ll see. It takes a while for all the facts to come out, sometimes years.) You feel for good friends who are in pain. You get angry and protective. A few years ago, my best friend’s husband walked out on her and her two kids. She was confused and heartbroken. I was livid.
There is one very troubling detail that I keep coming back to in your letter. I love giving people the benefit of the doubt—maybe it was all a crazy coincidence, maybe they weren’t lying and there’s perfectly logical explanation on why they were leaving a hotel together … but they were HOLDING HANDS. Hand-holding is reserved for those who really care about each other. Hand-holding does not say “let’s just get this out of our systems and never speak of it again.” Hand-holding is an intimate gesture, more intimate than doin’ it. You don’t hold hands with a sex worker—unless he or she needs help crossing the street.

No doubt your very presence on the corner of Eighty-seventh and Lex has pushed the hand-holding couple to consider their actions. I’m not sure how long ago “the coincidence” occurred, but I’d expect Bob and Marcy have had many conversations about ending it or coming clean since. Actually, they could be waiting for you to make a move. One of them might soon approach to ask what you intend to do with your information. You have a lot of power in this situation, of which they are very aware. It’s power that won’t get you much of anything; but to them, you possess the ability to unravel their worlds.

Are you doing the right thing by clamming up? There’s no easy answer. I hear what you’re saying about wanting to know if it was your husband messing around, but here’s a statistic. I Googled “percentage of couples who stay together after affairs” and got 50, 65, and 98 percent from the websites of three different well-respected couples’ therapists. Bullshit numbers aside, the majority of committed couples do survive infidelities. I suspect when the cheating partner is the one to reveal the affair (and not the neighbor, well-meaning friend, or anonymous letter on the windshield) the chances of reconciliation are even greater. This is a good thing. Anyone who’s been through a divorce will tell you that breaking up a family is messy, painful business for everyone involved.

Give Bob and Marcy time to do the right thing. Affairs show great lapses in judgment, but Bob and Marcy aren’t evil. Most likely they are weak or lonely or hurt and have justified their behavior in some extraordinarily creative way. Or … they could be in love. Either way, give them an opportunity to clean up after themselves. Eventually, all affairs make big messes. They explode or implode. And Bob and Marcy will have to pick up the pieces one by one. Should you ever tell? I think you should consider it if next time you’re at a party someone mentions casually to the group that Bob and Marcy are sleeping together. Bob and Marcy’s spouses do not need to suffer the indignity of gossip when they haven’t done anything wrong. But maybe you’re not the right person to expose the affair. Maybe you talk to a closer friend of the unhappy couples and argue that it’s time for the truth to come out. When it does, it will be very rocky for a while. But hopefully before long, people will get back on track and once again find hope and meaning in their days.

Social Life, before I go, I don’t think you should take their affair too personally. I know that this has affected your quality of life but ultimately, it is not about you. Let go of your disappointment in the hand holders and try to lower your expectations of the people around you. Then you won’t find yourself so out of sorts when they fall short. If you can do this, you’ll find yourself with more friends and perhaps fewer root canals (not based on any scientific studies whatsoever, just a hunch).
That’s it. See you next time.

Dodging Dark

April 18, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Dispatches From Babyville

I love the start of spring. Who doesn’t? Even the mildest winter brings its share of discomfort and inconvenience, but after a Polar Vortex Special like the one we’ve just had, after the months of suiting up like an Artic explorer, of traversing filthy mountains of sidewalk snow, of combatting epic, legendary cases of cabin fever, well, after all that, the first stirrings of spring are nothing less than magical.

But I have another reason to celebrate the spring, and it’s one that not many people share. Spring means the start of long days, the seemingly endless parade of hours saturated with sunlight—and not only do I like light, I need it, lots of it because I’m night blind. Truth be told, night blindness is the tip of the iceberg as far as my eyes are concerned; there’s also the whopping case of tunnel vision, the color blindness, the myopia, and the nasty, non-removable cataracts. I’m legally blind, courtesy of a degenerative retinal disease called retinitis pigmentosa, and, as you can imagine, this impacts my life in a bunch of ways. I don’t drive fighter jets and I don’t stitch up facial lacerations.

And I’m not a big fan of the dark . . . or the semi-dark . . . or the dark-ish. If a place is even approaching penumbral, it’s a safe bet I do not want to go there.

Some low-light destinations are easy to avoid—particularly once you have three children—and in doing so, you forfeit your nightlife. Without the slightest effort, I can steer clear of the very hip, very dark bars where I passed many an hour in my twenties. I haven’t seen the inside of a nightclub since, well, since they were still called “nightclubs.” Similarly, I hardly ever find myself in the countryside, or Hades, or Iceland in winter.

Other dark places are impossible to avoid, though, and for these, I’ve had to develop practical strategies to make sure I don’t lose an appendage, or a child.

Topping the list is movie theaters. When you’re in charge of a gaggle of kids and you live in a place where it’s mercilessly cold half the year and mercilessly hot the other half, matinees are Mommy’s little helper. Of course, being struck totally blind upon entering the theater makes the experience considerably less enjoyable. I’ve suffered enough embarrassing mishaps (sitting on a grandpa’s lap, sitting on my children’s lap, sitting on a chair that wasn’t there, also known as the floor) to have learned a thing or two.

First lesson: get there before the lights go down. Typically, I’m the kind of person who is so chronically tardy that I will call a friend, not if I’m running late, but if I’m on time. When it comes to the movies, though, our asses are in the seats as soon as the last movie empties out. Once we are settled in, nobody moves for any reason. Primo wants popcorn? No dice. Terza’s thirsty? She’s got saliva, doesn’t she? Seconda has to pee? She should’ve thought of that the ten times I asked before we entered the theater. Builds bladder muscles, anyway.

All the rules and restrictions don’t make for a freewheeling, fly-by-the-seat-of-our-pants good time, but we get in and out in one piece and we get to watch a motion picture.

Then there’s the Museum of Natural History. The place is aces and I’ve been going every year since I was in first grade, unpacking my lunch in the cafeteria that always smelled of old fish sticks. These days, though, unless I have an eagle-eyed adult companion with me on kid duty, there’s no way I step foot inside. The dinosaur rooms are fine, but the Hall of North American Mammals is as dim as an old lady’s parlor with the curtains perpetually drawn, to say nothing of the oh-so-moody Hall of Ocean Life. I’ve heard there are a squid and a whale down there but you could tell me it was a Sasquatch and a wallaby and I could not refute you.

Of all the dark places, the toughest to avoid is the entire out-of-doors after sunset. In the summer, it’s no huge impediment, since night doesn’t fall until nigh on nine p.m. But when the day begins at seven and ends just past four, the dark is always right around the corner. In winter, I understand the plight of closeted werewolves, desperate to get inside before the sun goes down.

I, do, of course, have several options. I could use a mobility cane. To explain why I don’t use one, I’d have to write an entire book, which I did, conveniently enough, and you can read it, starting in June.

I could also use a flashlight. It would, however, have to be industrial-strength and hands-free, so really, what I’d need is a miner’s headlamp. I’d consider these if Target released a line by Missoni, in multicolored woven textiles. As they do not, I will have to pass.

I could huddle in my apartment, comfortable and constrained. And I do, from time to time, especially when the temperature gets sub-Arctic. But this is New York, the city that never sleeps, and I’m just not that kind of girl.

So, I adventure out, dark or no dark, and I stick to the well-lit avenues and I curse the famous, beautiful trees that grow in Brooklyn, which are annoyingly light-obscuring, and I ask my kids to give me a heads-up when there’s a big crack in the pavement, or a fleet of rats ahead, or a garbage can strewn on the sidewalk.

And I dream of spring.

Then one day, it’s here. Flowers beginning to bloom at my feet and birds hazarding a chirp overhead, and sunlight—warming, brightening, revealing sunlight—streaming down on me morning, noon and into the night.

Nicole’s memoir, Now I See You, comes out June 24th by St. Martin’s Press. You can find out more info and preorder a copy on her website nicolekear.com.

Game Nights, Historic Sites & Tasty Delights

April 18, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: 36 Hours in Park Slope

Park Slope is often cited as being one of the best neighborhoods in all of New York City, and it is not hard to find out why. Beyond Prospect Park and the other stalwart points of interest, there is a lot to experience in the Slope, and it seems like almost every day there are new restaurants, boutiques, and fun activities to keep up with. If you only had thirty-six hours and wanted to get a first-hand look at some of the unique things that make Park Slope such a gem, what would you do? If you don’t know where to start, let me take you on a little guided tour.

Start your first morning off with a nice boost of caffeine at Konditori, a Swedish espresso bar that boasts a warm, Nordic atmosphere with modern Brooklyn flair. In addition to strong coffee (which may come with some Viking-inspired foam art), they also serve traditional Swedish pastries and classic coffee house sandwiches.

Once you’re properly caffeinated head over to Fifth Avenue where you’ll find one of Park Slope’s best kept secrets: the dozens of amazing vintage clothing boutiques. Williamsburg and the Lower East Side get the lion’s share of credit for great shopping, but Park Slope definitely has a horse in that race with stores like Almost New and Eponymy. If you’re traveling with kids, or if you’re one at heart, you will want to also check out the Brooklyn Superhero Supply Company. This kitschy store sells superhero paraphernalia—particle guns, deflector bracelets&ellip; the usual—and offers an all-inclusive superhero shopping experience with friendly staff and fun activities like a cape-testing wind tunnel. The storefront supports 826NYC, a nonprofit that provides children with tutoring services, so you’ll be shopping for a good cause.

After shopping it will be time for lunch. An easy crowd pleaser on Fifth Avenue is Dizzy’s, which offers delicious high-quality diner food. The biscuits and gravy are amazing, but if you want something a little lighter, go for Teo’s Italian Eggs. If you are visiting from out of town, it will probably be time to check into your hotel. Hopefully you are staying at Hotel Le Bleu, Park Slope’s premier boutique hotel. The rooms are thoughtfully designed, feature views of Manhattan, and are very reasonably priced, especially considering the amenities and features.

There’s no shortage of nightlife in Park Slope, but if you are looking for something a little out of the ordinary you can treat yourself to a grown-up game night. Start at Brooklyn Game Lab, which is a children’s after-school program and summer camp by day, but offers curated adult game events by night. If you are looking for something a little more throw back, you can hit up Fifth Avenue Bingo Hall, a no-frills, old school-style bingo hall where people come prepared to draw blood. There are rumblings that bingo could become the next big Brooklyn fad, so why not stay ahead of the curve?

For the second part of the evening, head on over to one of Park Slope’s newest institutions, Royal Palms Shuffleboard Club. Before heading in, grab a bite to eat at one of the many food carts parked outside. Once inside, treat yourself to a few drinks and a game of shuffleboard, and enjoy the subtle tropical ambiance. If you’re still in the competitive spirit, Union Hall, a Park Slope staple, is open until 4:00 a.m. This cozy bar features indoor bocce ball courts and always exudes a fun, raucous atmosphere.

Depending on how many games of shuffleboard and bocce you played the night before, the next morning you may be in the mood for a hearty brunch. Fortunately, you can’t shake a pair of hangover sunglasses without hitting a brunch spot. Applewood, a delicious eatery specializing in New England-style cuisine, is a solid choice. Any one of their seasonal omelets or grass-fed steak and eggs will do your body good!

With some grub in your stomach, stroll up to P.S. 321, which hosts one of Brooklyn’s best flea markets on Saturday and Sunday. Unlike the more “bougie” flea markets in the borough, the P.S. 321 Flea attracts a more eclectic collection of booths. Even if you are not looking to make any big purchases you’ll have a blast sifting through tables of old records, beguiling coffee mugs, and dusty tchotchkes.

Next stop is Old Stone House, one of Park Slope’s oldest historic sites. This reconstructed 1699 Dutch farmhouse hosts events year round and is open to the general public on Saturday and Sunday as a historic interpretive center focusing on the Battle of Brooklyn. If you are in the mood for a little more cultural exploration, head across the Slope to The Brooklyn Society for Ethical Culture. Housed in a historic mansion right on the edge of Prospect Park, the BSEC hosts practitioners of the Ethics Movement, a non-religious (although not necessarily not religious) organization whose members strive to live ethical lives without bowing to the constraints of society, culture, and tradition. Programs include seminars and meetings on philosophical subjects, as well as other events such as music, dances, and even stand-up comedy. There are even events for kids! Whether or not you are interested in attending, the building and grounds themselves are definitely worth checking out.

When your day is done stop by Sidecar for a late lunch of oysters or gumbo and cocktail, and give your feet a rest. In just thirty-six hours you will have walked all over the Slope, eaten at some of its best restaurants, enjoyed some of its unique amenities, and imbibed at some of its most exciting bars. Of course, thirty-six hours is not enough to see and do everything. If you already live in New York City, then you know Park Slope is just a hop, skip, and a jump away (or just outside your front door!). If you are visiting from out of town, then you just have dozens of excuses to visit again.

Breaking Free of Cabin Fever

April 18, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Reader Recommendations

As I type this looking out my window in mid-January—snow and ice on the ground and the temperature hovering around 20—I can only assume that spring will someday arrive. The temperature will rise and fauna will return. While we await the thaw, here are some reasons to put on the rain boots and exit the apartment.

Royal Palms Shuffleboard Club
514 Union Street

Brooklyn has long been a home for obscure sports enthusiasts, offering everything from bocce, skee-ball, kick-ball leagues, and winter swimming a la the Polar Bear Club. Shuffleboard can now be added to this list of wonderful unique past-times with the opening of the Royal Palms Shuffleboard Club. Located in a converted warehouse on Union Street in Gowanus, this new bar offers an experience completely unlike anything in the area. Royal Palms boasts ten regulation-sized shuffleboard courts and two 27-foot bars specializing in tropical drinks in the 17,000 square-foot Florida-inspired space. If all of the activity makes you hungry, there is space for local food trucks to pull right in and offer some of their grub. Take a tropical vacation without leaving the borough. Lanes can be rented for $40 an hour (for four players); and if you develop a real talent, you can join a league or become a member.

Child Baker to Culinary Chef
by Susan A. Tenteromano and Christopher E. Sanchez
Trafford Publishing

This book, from the owners of Le Petit Bakery in Fort Greene, is the perfect introduction for your budding chef. Simple and delicious recipes are laid out in a way that children can easily understand. Unlike other children’s cookbooks, these recipes aren’t just what you find on the kiddie menu of your local diner. These are trusted recipes, tested by the authors (a mother and son), and lovingly shared to inspire the next generation of foodies. Among the recipes you will find lemon squares, shortbread cookies, and chocolate covered pretzels. During the baking process, children learn math and reading comprehension with a delicious reward at the end. Susan Tenteromano designed the book specifically to help boost confidence in children as they complete each dessert. Child Baker to Culinary Chef can be ordered online, or you can reserve a copy at Le Petit Bakery (354 Myrtle Avenue) while picking up a cronut.

Puppet Works
338 6th Avenue

Looking for an interactive experience for your kids? Puppet Works runs performance of timeless classics for children ages three and up. These dazzling puppet shows make an ideal first-time theater outing for younger children. It’s an art-form that is best experienced live. Children and adults love the characters and craftsmanship in these interactive shows. This spring, the Puppet Works show features three well-known fables: Peter & the Wolf, The Ugly Duckling, and The Frog Prince. This not-for-profit puppet theater is a Park Slope landmark, operating out of its Sixth Avenue location since 1980. Performances take place 12:30 and 2:30 every Saturday, reservations are required. Tickets are $9 for adults and $8 for children—note that Puppet Works does not accept credit cards. Children are welcome to pull up a mat and get close to the action.

Touch-a-Truck!
May 17, 12-5pm
18th Street, between 6th & 7th Avenues

As the parent of a toddler, I can honestly say this is an ingenious idea. There’s a big star on our calendar for May 17th as P.S. 295 holds their fourth annual Touch-a-Truck Fundraiser. Twenty trucks—including a fire truck, police car, cement mixer, garbage truck, and ambulance—line Eighteenth Street between Sixth and Seventh Avenues. Children are invited to not only touch, but climb into the trucks and meet their operators. Food trucks will also be on-hand to offer some sustenance to the little climbers and their parents. Admission is $5 and all proceeds benefit P.S. 295. To learn more visit www.ps295.org.

Yoga and The Lower Back – From Pressure to Power

January 17, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Yoga

TheLowerBack Ah, winter, when the shoulders involuntarily hunch against the cold, the muscles take their time to warm up, and the temptation to linger in an overheated apartment overwhelms the urge to get outside—to the gym, for a run in the park, or to a yoga class. As we meet the challenge of cold weather, the body demands that we take time to warm up, pumping blood to the muscles so they become less brittle, more supple, and ready to go. When it’s cold, that’s especially important for the lower back.

Yoga offers a wonderfully wide vocabulary of poses to help us maintain flexibility and strength in the spine and torso. In a balanced practice, we move through a range far fuller than we would in daily life. Bending forward—flexing—helps us stretch muscles that shorten while we sit, stand, walk, or run, and releases tight zones at the back of the legs, the hamstrings. Arching the spine—extension—lengthens the torso’s front and strengthens the back muscles, the short and long fibers that travel from the base of the skull to the tail. As we add twists and side bends and subtle combinations of all these, we explore the beauty—and the challenge—of yoga.

Though the practice of asana can solve back problems, it can also hurt. Back pain can afflict yogis of any level. Some beginners have injured themselves and abandoned the practice altogether. And there are adepts who—without realizing it—put undue pressure on the lower back. Understanding the spine’s structure and applying some of the Alexander Technique’s sensible movement principles can bring a sense of ease within challenge, as well as a powerful, balanced torso.

There are common forms of misuse I see in both the yoga classes I take and those I teach. The suggestions below arise from my observations and solutions for avoiding injury, to help us get the most out of our yoga practice.

More than Stretching

Most people associate yoga with flexibility. Since many folks have tight muscles from long days of sitting, yoga can be a welcome respite. But when an area is troubled or injured, students often tell me, “I just need to stretch.” That urge is only one part of the picture. Working, then stretching, offers more balance to the back muscles. Though someone who’s hurt their lower back may be averse to extending the spine, when done well, spinal extensions are crucial to keeping the back toned and ready for action. A good instructor can help you understand how to do that with clarity.

The Dynamic Center

The key to the back’s ideal function is distribution of effort. We move courtesy of the muscles, a complex web of fibers that engage and release in each action. If you think you are supported by outside muscles, like bricks holding up a building, consider this: The muscles that support us to stand and sit well are smaller and closer to the spine. Called the multifidus, they kick in when the more visible outside muscles—designed for larger gestures as we move through space—don’t work overtime.

If the outside shell of muscle is tense, the inner muscles fail to engage, making the spine more compressed and more vulnerable. Studies have shown that, to protect the spine from injury, the multifidus muscles activate before any motion. Before you begin a pose, your spine can enliven to prepare for your next move. When sitting for meditation or pranayama, you energize this lively center with the ongoing pulse of the breath.
The Alexander Technique, a fundamental body management method, offers this idea: If we free the neck and allow the head to poise lightly, the whole spine releases and lengthens in a reflex natural to the body. At the waist—the lumbar spine—the vertebrae are at their thickest and most substantial. Rather than compressing, the lower back can expand.

When we sit or move with a clear fold at the hip joint, the lumbar spine functions as it should: as a center of weight. Then, when we add an arch, a curve or a twist, we have the firm bony support we need. The lumbar spine—the waist—is a power center, meant to conduct energy.

Those who are naturally flexible bend easily in the lower back. Because it can bend, we can overuse it, creating pain or injury. Many yoga students press down into the lower back in a lunge or warrior pose, even leaning back so that the rib cage dips behind the pelvis. This sends the front of the pelvis down toward the leg. Instead, we can guide the whole pelvis upward. It’s fine to add a spinal extension—opening the upper body into an arch. But it works better when that upward flow is the cherry on top, expanding through the upper back, distributing the effort rather than repeatedly pressing down onto the lumbar vertebrae.

Rather than a place of compression or pain, the lower back becomes what it’s meant to be: A powerful core, a river of nerve impulses, spinal fluid, of breath, of energy.

The Whole Torso—Top to Bottom

Identifying the top and bottom of the spine promotes distribution of effort through the whole torso. To locate the top, put your index fingers on each side of your head behind the lower jaw under your ear. This is where the head meets the spine.

At the bottom, where the pelvis meets the legs, are the hip joints. The hip joint is a ball and socket, with that big head of the upper leg—the femur—fitting deeply and neatly into the socket of the pelvis—the acetabulum. The hip joints support our weight in stillness and, as we shift among poses, the thighbone folds, twists, and opens. Its spherical design gives us a varied range of motion. You’ll feel the hip joints by putting the sides of your hands at the top of each leg.

Moving at these two joints will lessen the lower back’s overwork. Without holding the back stiffly, neither pushing nor pulling, you can envision space between the ears and, from deep within the torso, allow the spine its natural, gentle lengthening. Getting the lumbar spine and hip joint to function according to their job descriptions helps us protect and enhance the lower back’s safe functioning so that we can curve and arch with ease.

Lift Your Heart, Then Let it Soften

Another common habit that puts pressure on the lower back is lifting the front of the spine—the part we can see—and shortening the back—the part we can’t. Counseled to “open the heart” in class, I’ve seen many a yogi walk out of the studio holding that same posture. Any braced position is trouble, and this one puts pressure on your hardworking lower back. When it’s over, let that lovely lifted heart soften in the front to let the full dimension of the back open. There’s a lot of lung tissue back there. When you see where the lungs are, you’ll want to let your breath fill all that available territory—a clearer, more reliable internal support.

A Center of Power

Every power move—a karate punch, a soccer kick, a baseball swing—is driven by a whip, a strong twist through the waist. Rather than a place of weakness, the lumbar spine becomes a center of power. When we stand in balance over our feet or sit well on the sit bones, the effort is distributed through the bodies of those thick, supportive vertebrae.

As we walk and breathe easily, the ribs are free and a twist in the waist propels us forward. The swing of the ribs and this natural twisting motion offers an ongoing massage for the lumbar spine and the internal organs. Yogic master BKS Iyengar expressed the contribution of twists to overall health as “squeezing and soaking.” As you would squeeze out a cloth to soak it with fresh water, the wring of a twist squeezes out the organs’ toxins. As we return, they are refreshed with new blood, lymph, oxygen.

The lower back is but one stop on the sequence of vertebrae from top to bottom. To free it from overwork, we can pause before moving, envision a light poise of the head and let the whole spine release into length. That awakens our lively, flowing center. Then, from deep within the torso, we are supported in stillness or poised for action.

Eating Well This Winter

January 17, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Eat Local

EatingWellThisWinter With the plentiful amount of fresh baked goods at your fingertips throughout the holidays and the siren song of comfort food calling to you as the temperatures drop, it can be difficult to keep healthy eating at the forefront of your priorities. But with a health-food superstore opening up in your backyard, healthy dining options expanding seemingly by the day, and progressive nutritionists flexible enough to fit in your hectic lifestyle, our neighborhood is the perfect place to be to keep your habits in check.

Back to the Urban Earth Movement

Recently, the long-awaited Whole Foods finally opened its Gowanus location (214 3rd Street). This behemoth of a store has taken care to honor its new Brooklyn home by stocking its shelves with products sourced locally from around the borough. Highlights include a takeout noodle shop by Smorgasburg fave Yuji Ramen, a rooftop bar serving up local brews and bites, and a rooftop greenhouse which, through a collaboration with New York’s premier rooftop greenhouse company Gotham Greens, supplies some of the food found in its produce section. Gotham Greens has been supplying the other Whole Foods locations in the city since opening their flagship farm in Greenpoint in 2011, so they were a natural fit for the rooftop project. Co-founders Viraj Puri and Eric Haley, as well as Greenhouse Director Jennifer Nelkin, created a technologically-advanced controlled environment system that resulted in the ability to provide local, fresh food year-round that will now be applied to the rooftop farm of Whole Foods in Gowanus.

Gotham Green’s sophisticated climate control systems create an environment that is not only highly productive, but sustainable and ecologically-friendly too. Sensors throughout the greenhouse monitor factors like temperature, humidity, oxygen, carbon dioxide, and light-levels that then trigger computer-controlled components to create the ideal growing atmosphere, no matter what the weather is like outside. Powered by on-site solar panels, the whole process is surprisingly energy-efficient. They also make use of a closed-loop irrigation system, allowing them to reuse all of the water put into the system and to use twenty times less water, which—when agriculture is the number one use for fresh water—makes a big impact compared to Gotham Green’s more traditional counterparts. On top of that, not using chemical pesticides eliminates the risk of run-off to the watershed. With all of this taken into account, Gotham Green’s farms have the capability to produce twenty to thirty times greater the harvest per acre than field-based farms.

At the Whole Foods location, the majority of that production will be leafy greens, herbs, and tomatoes. Shoppers can swipe up hyperlocal greens like butter lettuce, spring mix, arugula, and kale, as well as heirloom, cherry, grape, and several other varieties of tomatoes. Of course, all this produce will be organic and GMO-free. While the greenhouse itself will be open to employees only, there will be a viewing area and self-guided tour right outside if you find yourself curious while shopping or drinking over at the bar. If you’ve heard the recent buzz and have been intrigued by rooftop farming, this will finally be your chance to see it up close and in action.

Around the World in 80 Dishes

While committing to a healthier diet may have you turning to your own kitchen more often, sometimes you just need to treat yourself to a night out. Thankfully, Brooklyn has a wide variety of healthy dining options to choose from, and among the most interesting is Prospect Heights newcomer, Mason and Mug (708 Washington Avenue). Opened last November by Itta Werdinger Roth—founder of the popular kosher supper club, The Hester—and Sasha Chack—former Food and Beverage Director of 92Y Tribeca—this kosher pescatarian establishment specializes in small plates inspired by global street food. The cozy, casual space is the perfect neighborhood spot featuring an open kitchen, a few high top wooden tables, a small backyard, chalkboard menus, and a street art-inspired mural displayed on one of the walls. The inviting atmosphere calls out for a quick bite before heading out on the town.

The ever-rotating menu will draw inspiration from Roth and Chack’s multicultural upbringing. Roth is Australian and of Eastern European Jewish heritage, and has traveled frequently in Israel while living in New York—a lot of the dishes will have a nod to Chack’s extensive traveling in Southeast Asia. At Mason and Mug’s opening, these influences came together in dishes like the Daikon Carrot-Ginger Soup with Seaweed and Beech Mushrooms, a banh mi with pickled daikon and carrots, pressed tofu, cilantro, cucumber, and fish sauce, and a fish taco with pickled red cabbage, avocado, and jalapeno-cilantro mayo. Having a variety of small plates available, they hope, will encourage people to try new things and introduce them to new kinds of cuisine.

Don’t pass over their delicious smoked fish and cheese boards—at $13 and $12 respectively, they are some of the best bargains in the borough. The details of the boards will vary slightly, but each offers an array of delights that is difficult to beat. The fish board, at the time of this writing, included Acme’s Pastrami Lox, lemon pepper lox, smoked mackerel, and smoked whitefish accompanied by a sharp mustard dill sauce and marble rye (the good stuff), while the cheese board featured aged havarati, Bastardo del Grappa, and Pecorino with sourdough bread and apple pepper preserves. Wash all of this down with something from their short-but-sweet bar menu of local beers and wines. Then, take a peek at their corner of goods to go that includes obscure Israeli snacks, condiments, homemade breads, and groceries—including their pickles that are made in-house. And if you didn’t get your fill of lox at dinner, be sure to check out their Lox and Bagel Brunch on Sundays. It’s the perfect fit in the neighborhood’s expanding dining scene.

A Resolution’s Helping Hand

Juice cleanses. Drastic diets destined to fail. An unpronounceable supplement regimen. These are all the hallmarks of a person at the turn of a new year, looking back in horror at their eating habits of the previous month and vowing to make a change for the better as their Resolution—and this time, they really mean it. They slip a little more each week until, finally, they’re back to their old ways merely a few months (if not weeks) into the year. It’s the same old story year after year. Only, maybe this time, it can be different with just a little help. That’s where Jennifer Schonborn comes in (jenniferschonborn.com). Taking a holistic approach to her services, Schonborn may be a bit different than what you typically expect from a nutritionist. Understanding that there isn’t any one-size-fits-all rules for dieting, Schonborn will take a more expansive approach into her treatment options. The first step is getting to know you. How are you sleeping? What are your stress levels like? What type of exercise do you do? How is your career and your relationships going? Our relationship with food is at the center of all of this, and once it’s all taken into account, Schonborn can create a deeply personalized approach to your nutrition.

There are several ways to take advantage of Schonborn’s nonclinical one-on-one setting. Her most recommended program is her Six-Month Program, based on the theory that six months is how long it takes to fully develop or break habits. The longer time period allows you to focus on a series of small, gradual changes rather than being thrown a pile of huge, daunting changes that you’d be more likely to give up on. Having more successes—no matter how small—builds confidence and the likelihood that you will stick to your goals as a whole. The program includes two, hour-long sessions a month, email support in between sessions, a monthly wellness newsletter, and any books, handouts, food samples, or self-care products that are deemed helpful. If you don’t have room for a six-month commitment, there are several other options to choose from including a three-month program, a One-Week Detox Program, and as little as a Six-Day Stress-Reduction Package. These can be carried out in person or over the phone, but since Schonborn is based in Park Slope, she’s likely to be just a few blocks away. If you’re unsure which is the best choice for you, or even if this would be a good fit, Schonborn always offers free one-hour consultations, which can be scheduled on her website.

Put simply, Schonborn’s philosophy is that whole, natural, real food nourishes us better physically, emotionally, and mentally. If we stop the emphasis on convenience and speed, it can lead to making better food choices by focusing on more green vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and healthy fats, and cutting red meat, processed food, sugar, and dairy as much as possible. Schonborn suggests that the easiest way to stay healthy in the winter is to focus on supporting the immune system by remembering to exercise, catching up on sleep, working to reduce stress, and increasing our intake of leafy vegetables and whole grains. Try to cook at home as much as you can, and remember to focus on making small goals day-by-day to avoid getting discouraged. At this time of year, there will be a million tips thrown your way about how to put your New Year’s Resolutions into practice, so if you need guidance, encouragement, and accountability, Jennifer Schonborn can help tailor the best approach to nutrition for you.

Kids and the Harsher Realities of Life

January 17, 2014 By admin Leave a Comment Filed Under: Hypocrite's Almanac

Dear Hypocrite,

The other day I’m walking down Seventh Avenue with my three-year-old son and I notice there’s a panhandler in front of the Citibank. My son stops to talk to everyone so, although it’s completely out of our way, I cross the street to avoid the woman sitting on the sidewalk holding a cardboard sign. I don’t want to get in a discussion with him about how some people don’t have places to live or enough food to eat. I know we’ll have to go there eventually, but I want to put it off for as long as possible.

My question is this: When and what do you tell your kid about the harsher realities of life? Our bird Lucky died last week. I told my son that Lucky went to visit her sister in Brazil. I’m thinking you’re going to tell me it’s wrong to lie but, I thought he’d really lose it if I told him the truth.

Tracey in Gowanus

Dear Tracey,

I’m sorry to hear about your bird. It’s hard to lose a pet, but you’re right, I’m a big fan of talking about death with kids at an early age, so in my opinion you blew an opportunity. You think your son might have “lost it”, but he might not have. He might have pondered Lucky’s death for a few seconds and then asked to play Fruit Ninja. There will be countless other opportunities to let him in on life’s little inevitability, of course. Why not go out and buy a goldfish this afternoon? In a matter of months you’ll have another chance to have that conversation you just dodged.

I don’t know if you read the last issue of Park Slope Reader, but I moved out of the city. One of the things I miss most about living in Brooklyn is being around all different types of people behaving in all different ways. Walking home from the store, my kids and I would see someone or something that would initiate a discussion about why people do the things they do or live the way they live. Here in the suburbs, we still have occasional conversations around social issues, but they are spawned from news heard on the radio or seen on TV. While I don’t miss stepping over the dog/human shit on my block, I do miss the intensity and diversity of life that a dense population brings. And yes, I miss the takeout, too.

So to answer your questions: When do you tell your kid about the dark side? My answer is when they ask. And what do you tell them? It depends. I completely get that for a three-year-old the idea of someone being hungry or homeless is very scary. But kids are capable of understanding that bad things happen: Sometimes it rains the whole weekend, sometimes you don’t get the donut you want, sometimes your toy breaks the day you got it. The key to addressing the heavy issues is to keep it simple. With my kids, I give a short introduction (topics recently covered: Why people do drugs, sexual abuse, the difference between a Catholic and a Protestant) and then let them ask questions. My son will ask questions rapid fire until he’s satisfied. My daughter will ask a few and then, in a day or two, a few more. When all are answered, ask a few of your own. In the case of the woman with the sign, ask your son how he thinks she ended up on the street. Help him create the story. It doesn’t have to be realistic—there can be dinosaurs and aliens involved. Then ask him how you both could help the person. You certainly could write a check to New York City Food Bank. Your son can put on the stamp and draw a picture and sign his name. It’s really important to teach our kids empathy and compassion. Get started on this as early as you can. I’m telling you, go buy that fish.

When he gets older, you can bring up the real factors that cause someone to have to ask for money on the street. You can discuss the lack of affordable housing, mental illness, unemployment, or healthcare costs. What fun! And then if your kid is so inclined, enable him to act. The two of you can volunteer at a shelter, serve food at CHiPs, or collect coats when the weather turns. These activities are the antidote to self-absorption for both kids and adults.

I have a friend named Ben who has a kid and lives in Park Slope. He told me this story recently and I asked him to write it up so I could share it with you.

I was on the F train with my kid. She’s eight, and we were on our way to Bryant Park to go iceskating. My kid looked adorable. She was wearing a matching glove and hat set with stripes, and she had the skates she got for Christmas slung over her shoulder. It was early in the morning and she was snuggled up against me. All was good.

And then: “Excuse me Ladies and Gentlemen, pardon for the interruption. I am homeless—” Now, I work in the city so I hear this every day and my kid is a city kid and she’s no doubt heard it dozens of times herself. When she was little I’d dig for a couple quarters and let her put them in the cup. Since she’s older and we’ve had some discussions about how it’s better to give to organizations than to individuals, this particular day we both gazed downward and waited for the person to pass. But as he passed, we saw that he had no shoes. His feet were in plastic bags with rubber bands to keep them on. My daughter’s eyes went from the bags to me and then back to the bags. She then tugged on my sleeve. “Daddy,” she said, “give him your wallet.”

I did not hand over my wallet. My daughter begged me but I kept my eyes down and told her quietly that after ice skating we would make a donation to New York Cares or somewhere that helps the homeless. But at that moment, it was not enough for my daughter. She insisted that we get off the train and go home. It was unfair that she had three pairs of sneakers, one pair of boots, a pair of dress shoes, and a pair of ice skates while that man had none. We were going home and collecting all the shoes we didn’t need and donating them to a place that would help people like the man on the train.

I am a pretty strict parent. My girls have to practice the piano for a half hour everyday. They have chores and must write thank you notes. But I felt at that moment forcing my daughter to go iceskating was something I just couldn’t stomach. She was upset and knew what she could do to make herself feel better, and I thought that if I manipulated her into going skating she might learn to stifle her impulses. I might sound like I had it all figured out, but believe me, this moment was agonizing. The shoeless man was long gone, but my daughter was still hysterical and I was completely flummoxed. At the next stop, I followed her off the train and we boarded the Brooklyn-bound one that had just pulled up.

At home, we went through every closet and came up with six pairs to donate. Then we went to our neighbors and friends that lived close by. We gathered forty-two pairs of shoes that day and dropped them off at Housing Works. We took the children’s shoes to the Red Hook Community Center.

That was a couple of weeks ago. Since then, we’ve talked about volunteering to help others in different ways. I’m not sure what we’ll do next, but that man on the train definitely moved us act instead of just think. I’m so thankful I didn’t get in my daughter’s way that morning. She taught me a lot.

Tracey in Gowanus, get ready. The great, wild world of parenting an older kid awaits you. Just remember, you’re not the only one that will be doing the teaching. Stay open to what your kid feels strongly about, and like Ben, you’ll be a better parent and person for it.

Wash your hands. Mind your manners. See you next time.